Embrace Your Pain

I don’t believe that hiding our struggles or how we really feel should be treated as the price of being accepted, especially by the people who love us. At the same time, I don’t believe that dwelling indefinitely in pain is healthy either. But we can’t move beyond something we refuse to acknowledge.

So many of us try to get to the other side of pain by going around it, skipping over it, or burying it. The problem is that the wall doesn’t end. It stretches in every direction. The only way forward is through.

That means first facing the wall. Not judging it. Not fixing it. Just recognizing that it’s there. Then accepting it. Then looking closely at how it’s built, brick by brick, until a way through begins to reveal itself.

Sometimes what we need most isn’t advice, solutions, or being told to “get over it,” but someone who can stand with us while we face the wall long enough to understand it. That’s how real movement happens. That’s how healing begins.

If you liked this, you might like my post about using RAIN to cope with unpleasant feelings:
Transform Negative Emotions With The RAIN Technique

Or if you are feeling a bit like you've been run over by a train (emotionally), you might like this:
Taking Back My Personal Power

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